Self esteem

1. Use affirmations: self esteem affirmations are positive statements you can say to empower you. They are important in the process for building your self esteem and a good habit to implement in your life.
2. Stop comparing with others: this is a low self esteem Sign and a bad habit. Stop saying : I wish I could ride his car, you always look perfect and look at me, you are so thing, I will never lose weight, I am not enough and so on.
3. Don’t confuse self esteem with arrogance. Remember that arrogance is an attitude of superiority manifested in an overbearing manner .
4. Write a journal: every day write about how you felt, what you enjoyed. Ask questions: Have I taken good care of myself? Have I been true to myself? Have I look for external approval? This good habit will make you to get in touch with you and understand better your behaviors.
5. Set goals and write your life dreams. It is your birthright to fulfill your desires and to do this you need to be clear inside. You are important and deserve to have bright and wonderful future. Get clear about what you want and feel deserving of it.
6. Identify your fears and confront them.See yourself overcoming your fears because it will make you more confident .
7. Know your strengths and weakness and when is time to ask for help.
8. Optimism is the key. Avoid telling all day everybody how difficult is your life. Stay in a positive state. If things are not going the way you would like them to be, do something about it. This is not denial, but the awareness that you are in the process to change . During this process it is important that you remain as optimistic as you can.
9. Overcome  jealousy . Deal with your feelings and the person concerned. Take responsibility and express your feelings. This will help you to earn respect from others.
10. Learn to say no when is necessary. Practice assertiveness . Stand up for yourself and be proud .
11. Accept compliments without justification.
12. Fit your body: you deserve and need to have a healthy body. Run in the morning or go to the gym. If this difficult ask a friend to go with you. Look for an exercise program.
13. Meditate: at least fifteen minutes once a day. Any meditation will do. Follow your breath or use a mantra. Meditation is and excellent tool for your mental health.
14. Sleep well: Avoid eating too much, or watch violence or news before you go to bed.
15. Have fun: This will help you to stay healthy and boost your immune system.
16. Release negative emotions : As soon as they came out, if it is possible, release them. Use any technique you like or visit a professional or counselor. Remember if you find yourself angry, sad, and anxious or whatever negative emotion you are experiencing, stop and take action. You will feel better.
17. Nourish your relationships. Treat others the way you would like to be treated. Instead of saying something that you will regret , stop and come back to the conversation when your emotional turbulence is gone. If you have children, spend time with them . If you are married make your marriage work by avoiding routine. Go out with your partner once a week for a great dinner or just to have a coffee. Join a hobby together. Never let your wife or husband be taken for granted. Send them a card, by a flower, a chocolate, a love note. Keep it alive. Self esteem is important to maintain nurturing relationships .
18. Take care of your body : exercise is not enough; you have to eat healthy foods, drink a lot of water, and have an annual check up with your doctor.
19. Surround with positive and supportive people. Let go of any person that is trying to pull you down.
20. Overcoming perfectionism is another important practice .
21. Be in nature: go out for walk, contemplate the flowers, and walk on the grass without your shoes. Go to the beach, to a park. Plant a flower.
22. Praise yourself: write down what you are proud of and what you have done right.
23. Make treats a daily habit: read a book you enjoy, a warm bath, by yourself a gift. Make a nice dinner, go on vacation, watch a movie and feel great knowing that you deserve it.
24. Forgive yourself: let go of guilt and regret. If you did something wrong don’t dwell on that. Learn from your mistakes. Use your regret and guilt to become a better person.
25. Overcome denial: sometimes there are behaviors or situations that are too painful and as a defense mechanism we have a tendency to go into denial. Talk to a friend about what you feel, look for help or a professional or even Get Online Counseling Now.
26. Stop self-criticism: change your inner talk by answering back with a positive statement.
27. Practice acceptance : Accept what you can’t change and also what you can change. Accept your imperfections and improve what is changeable.
28. Don’t be afraid to make mistakes. We all make them, just learn from what you did wrong and move on.
29. Value your successes: not matter if they are big or small.
30. Learn to be in solitude: You have to learn to be happy with your company. This is not an easy task but do it gradually. It is the best way to overcome loneliness.
31. Take holidays: specify what you need . Have fun. Plan them ahead and make a list of the things you would like to live in your holiday. It does not matter if the holiday is two days or a month.
32. Let go of your emotional wounds: Sometimes past experiences left wounds inside of ourselves. Be aware of what is triggering those wounds and release them. May be when you were a child somebody made fun of you in front of your friends. So now as an adult you feel shame and you are not sure were that shame comes from. Pay attention now in the present what triggers shame and go to the past to find wound and release it.
33. Be grateful for what you have. Also for your family, friends, health and all the possibilities you have ahead.
34. Stop reacting: if somebody has bad manners act with dignity, if you respond with aggressiveness to the insult you will hurt your self esteem. Remember practice assertiveness.
35. Worrying about the future will only create depression and sadness. The only moment you have is now. With the now you are creating your future. It is important that you live in the present moment.
36. Heal your personal history. Healing your negative patterns is crucial to your welbeing .Let go of your past.
37. Take responsibility for the events that are happening. Stop blaming others and your circumstances.

Trust yourself and know that you can cope with the challenges in your life. Also know that you are worthy of happiness success and fulfillment. Be patient and kind with your life.

Good reminders. This is something we should all read at least once a week!  Written By Regina Brett, 90 years old, of The Plain Dealer, Cleveland , Ohio .

 "To celebrate growing older, I once wrote the 45 lessons life taught me. It is the most-requested column I've ever written."

My odometer has now rolled over to 90, so here is the column once more:
 
1. Life isn't fair, but it's still good.

2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.
 
3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.
 
4. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and parents will. Stay in touch, especially with your grandparents.
 
5. Pay off your credit cards every month.
 
6. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
 
7. Cry with someone. It's more healing than crying alone. 

8. It's OK to get angry with God . He can take it. 

9. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.
 
10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.

11. Make peace with your past so it won't screw up the present.
 
12. It's OK to let your children see you cry.
 
13. Don't compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
 
14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn't be in it.
 
15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But don't worry; God never blinks.
 
16. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.
 
17. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.
 
18. Whatever doesn't kill you really does make you stronger.
 
19. It's never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is up to you and no one else.
 
20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don't take no for an answer.
 
21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don't save it for a special occasion. Today is special.
 
22. Over prepare, then go with the flow.
 
23. Be eccentric now. Don't wait for old age to wear purple.
 
24. The most important sex organ is the brain.
 
25. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.
 
26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words 'In five years, will this matter?'
 
27. Always choose life.
 
28. Forgive everyone everything.
 
29. What other people think of you is none of your business.
 
30. Time heals almost everything. Give time time.
 
31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
 
32. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
 
33. Believe in miracles.
 
34. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn't do.
 
35. Don't audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.
 
36. Growing old beats the alternative -- dying young.
 
37. Your children get only one childhood.
 
38. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.
 
39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.
 
40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else's, we'd grab ours back. 

41. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
 
42. The best is yet to come.
 
43. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
 
44. Yield.
 
45. Life isn't tied with a bow, but it's still a gift."
 
Its estimated 93% won't forward this. If you are one of the 7% who will, forward this with the title '7%'.
 
I'm in the 7%.
 
Remember that I will always share my spoon with you!